Change your story change your life

Your story is the narrative that you tell people. It’s the cycle of facts about yourself you explain to people when they are getting to know you. People describe themselves and their lives in many ways; however, one of the most common things people tell in their narrative is that they are ‘busy’, ‘too busy’, ‘and always busy’.

People have been taught that being busy is a sign of success, so when trying to make a good impression they often mention that they are. If you truly are busy that is ok, but constantly telling people that you have no time can potentially close you off to valuable opportunities that could otherwise come your way. 

You’ve probably heard the term ‘prophecy’ in fantasy books and films but have you ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? A self-fulfilling prophecy is when a person unintentionally causes a prediction to come true because he or she expects it to come true. In other words, an expectation about a subject, such as a person or an event, can potentially affect our behavior towards that subject, which causes the expectation to become a reality.

Have you ever woken up in a crappy mood and just known from the get go that you weren’t going to have the best day. Sure enough, you’re late for work, leave your wallet at home, people are in a bad mood at work and negative things just seem to swamp you all day.  If so, you were likely suffering and experiencing a self-fulfilling prophecy.

To change your story or narrative and prevent negative self-fulfilling prophecies you need to recognise the little voice in your head. This voice is often the influence and ideas placed on you by parents and teachers, and even friends. Become aware that this is happening. Then write down the things that the voice is saying to you. 

It might be something like:
“You’re too young.”
“You’re too busy.”
“You’re under qualified.”
“You don’t have enough experience.”
“You don’t have the right experience.”
It could be anything. Listen carefully and write everything down word-for-word.

Now ask yourself, does this story help you. Does it empower you or help you to accomplish your goals or does it prevent you from doing so? Sometimes, people are addicted to their problems and the stories that create them.

Once you have established this, work out what you need to do. Write down your new story and make sure you are being honest with yourself. Create a new self-fulfilling prophecy that is positive and will help you achieve what you want in your life. Now start telling yourself and those around you the new story. You have time, you are never too busy to work on an amazing project or take a fantastic opportunity. Change your story and you will change your life. 

Idea and thought by Daniel Baldock. Badass writing and structure by Lily Cardis